Before we begin, I want to apologize for the lack of updates. Like I said before, I’m trying to focus on finishing my stories before the year ends. I’m thinking of recycling my old blog posts like other bloggers do. That way, new readers can find my old content. ^^
In the meantime, I’ll keep trying to update at least 1-2 times a week.
Onto today’s topic!
Today we’re going to talk about…
That’s right, relationships!
So yesterday, the man I’m with made a comment about how he missed the “old me.” To further explain, the old me was a lazy bum who didn’t do anything but go to work, play RPGS, and watch TV. Once I decided I seriously wanted to be a writer, everything changed for me. I was involved in writing communities, reading and writing all the time. And when I mean all the time, I mean all the time.
My focus was on improving my craft and not letting anything stop me from being a writer. What used to be me playing video games, was now me reading books on writing. At that time, I finally felt like a part of myself was becoming who I should have been – a writer. My happiness increased (and slightly decreased from writing stress) because I felt I was a part of something. I was growing into a writer, and my world was expanded beyond the boring reality I lived in.
However, with my newfound realization, it took a toll on my relationship. Instead of being readily available to hang out with, I was busy with chapters. When the work day was finally over, I needed to go online to check my stats and read other people’s stories. Needless to say, my relationship took a hit.
We fought for a while, and I was told I was obsessed with writing. To be fair, I was. I wanted to be a good writer, to learn everything I could about the craft. When you are building yourself up, it takes time, but you can’t ignore the people in your life.
After thinking about it, I decided I needed to work on time management. While I would love to write and read as much as I could, I can’t.
Here are some tips on how I balanced being in a relationship and being a writer:
Set aside time – There is only so many hours in the day to spend time with loved ones, so try to work around those hours. For me, the guy I’m with doesn’t wake up until 10:00 am or 11:00 am on the weekends, so I work early.
Explain to them your passion – After we had fought, I explained to him and my family why writing was so important to me. I even used explains of famous people like Steve Jobs and J. K. Rowling. If you want to build yourself as a writer, you need time to write. Once I was able to provide examples and show how strong my desire was, they understood.
Don’t get angry – If your loved ones ever get mad, and say you spend too much time writing, don’t get angry with them. Listen to their concerns and come up with an action plan. For example, for my guy and me, we both agreed that past 5:00 pm, I wouldn’t write. However, that does depend on what we’re doing that day. If he wants to go out, then I don’t write.
Again, I don’t want to make this post too long, but I hope this tips will help you in your relationships :3 If you ever feel overwhelmed, try not to. Other writers have done it before us and have been successful. We just have to find that balance with our own lives.
How do you balance out writing and being in a relationship?