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Be Humble (For Writers)

Hey everyone! How is your weekend going? Before we get into today’s blog post, I want to post some updates.

  1. Thank you to everyone who followed me on Twitter. I really appreciate it!
  2. This blog is almost at 2K followers!!! I want to do something special then, but I need some ideas. If anyone has any ideas, please let me know.
  3. I noticed some readers are still looking for Clash of Tides. If you are looking for the story, please click here: My Tapas. You can also email me here: Email Me.

That’s all the updates from me, so let’s get into today’s discussion.

Today, I want to talk about humility.

Dwayne Johnson once said, “I’m always asked, ‘What’s the secret to success?’ But there are no secrets. Be humble. Be hungry. And always be the hardest worker in the room.”

(Read more at: https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/dwayne_johnson_760904?src=t_humble)

The keywords in that quote are “Be humble.”

As writers, some of us hope to publish our stories and grow our readership. To increase our readership, we need to expand our brand across multiple platforms, thus making a name for ourselves. While making our name and stories known, some of us may grow in popularity. Or at least, we’ll get more recognition for our work.

As they say, the more popular and powerful one becomes, the more corrupt they get. That’s why it’s important to be and stay humble. Even if you’re successful, we should never forget where we came from. Like most people in life, things aren’t handed to them; they have to work for it.

After writing online for so long, I’ve seen “popular” writers group themselves together and look down on others in the community. These writers often call themselves “The best…(genre).” Honestly, and this is just my opinion, it’s not a good look when you put yourself above others. As writers, we should support each other, not act like we are better.

On WordPress, I haven’t seen this. But imagine a group of well-known WordPress bloggers starting a group and calling themselves “The best bloggers on WordPress.” Would you be inclined to follow people like that? For me, personally, I wouldn’t. I don’t feel any one blogger is above another.

That’s why it’s best to be humble, to remember that we weren’t always on top. Many days or nights are spent alone writing, rewriting, and analyzing our stories over and over again. Until our work reaches a broad audience, we only have those few readers who support us.

As they say, “You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.”  

To my fellow writers, please be humble and remember to support your fellow writers. We’re in this writing game together, and together, we will lift each other up, not watch each other fall.


Question: What do you think? Do you think it’s better to be a humble writer?


Using Your Talent (For Writers)

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Today’s post is more personal, but I figured I would share it with everyone. People say writing is an art, but writing isn’t visual like most traditional art. Let’s say, for example, drawing, graphic design, and acting. Nope, writing isn’t something people can see without using their imaginations. So for some, reading and visualizing a story isn’t easy. I figured that’s why most people say, “I’ll wait for the movie or TV adaption to come out.” Or, “Why read it when I can watch the movie?”

People say writing is an art, but writing isn’t visual like most traditional art. Let’s say, for example, drawing, graphic design, and acting. Nope, writing isn’t something people can see without using their imaginations. So for some, reading and visualizing a story isn’t easy. I figured that’s why most people say, “I’ll wait for the movie or TV adaption to come out.” Or, “Why read it when I can watch the movie?”

For those who write and read, we know those people are missing out on some great stories. And of course, books usually cover more than a movie or TV show will. So as writers, our work is harder than traditional artists who create beautiful pieces for people to ponder and stare at.

Now, you may be wondering what’s the point of this, and I’m going to tell you. Point blank: use your talent. A few years ago, I was always on DA (Deviantart). If you don’t know what DA is, it’s a place for artists to share their work. So think, drawings, gifs, photography, and more. On DA, fellow artists would draw pictures for other users. The same can be said for artists offline. For example, if a friend is sad, you can draw a picture of them with their favorite fictional character. Those artists use their talent online, and offline.

As writers, we should do the same thing. If you are a writer, use your talent not just to write stories online, for publishing or for yourself. Also, write for the people in your life who love and care about you.

This week, my mother was upset over something my brother did, and I tried to think of ways to make her feel better. Of course, we talked about, but then I thought, “I write! Why don’t I write her a poem.” So, I got my thinking cap on and wrote something short and straightforward:

There is no reason to be mad,
so please, don’t be sad.

Here is a simple message to say,
I am here for you now and always.

Dedicated to my mother, Evelyn. 

I know it’s not much, but it’s a way to use my talent to cheer her up. If I were better at drawing, I would have drawn her a picture of the landscapes she likes. However, that’s a skill I’m still working on. So next time someone in your life is sad, use those writing skills to make them feel better. After all, it is your talent. And besides, if your friends and family see more of your writing, then they may read that book you’ve been working on or, they may finally say, “We have a writer in the family, and it’s (you)!”

Have you ever used your writing talent for a friend or family member? If you did, what did you write them?

How a Writer Acts in a Relationship (For Writers)

First, Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!

I wanted to post last weekend, but since it’s Valentine’s Day, I figured today would be better. ^__^

Here we go! Here is my take on how writers act in a relationship, or rather, this is how I act 😛

1. When you ask your sweetheart (the writer) how their day went, and they actually made progress on their story.


2. When you want to snuggle but your sweetheart (the writer) is bursting with new story ideas.


3. When your sweetheart (the writer) talks about their new story, and you pretend not to listen.

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4. When you ask your sweetheart (the writer) if you can read the story they’ve been working on.

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5. When the writer in your life thanks you for supporting them ^__^


Yes, today’s theme was Xena, but I hope you enjoyed it!

As a writer, how do you act in a relationship?

Blog Tip Series: Being Active in the Community


Hello, everyone! How are you doing today? I hope you’re having a good Monday! I’m off today for MLK day, so I decided to update my blog.

Today, I’m going to post more blogging tips. Later, I’ll post about the award I received. So, I checked my followers and saw 1,043. I finally reached the 1,000 follow milestone, and believe me, it wasn’t easy. Before, I said, “You have to give to get.” And honestly, I’ve found that so true online.

If you want people to follow you, you need to take an interest in their blog as well. Believe me; I understand how hard it is to balance social media. I’m sure some of you are thinking,


“Wait, I have to post, research and comment on other blogs too?” My answer is yes! The easiest way for people to find you is to be active in the community. Meaning, the more people see you and your comments pop up, the more they’ll take an interest in your blog.

The same concept applies to updating 1-2 times a day. If they see you’re an active blogger, they are more likely to read your stuff. You show you update a lot, but also take an interest in other people. When I first started blogging, I would spend 1-2 hours a day reading other people’s blogs. However, I didn’t limit myself to the “writing” tag. I also used the “anime tag,” the paranormal tag,” and the “reading” tag. Not only do I read the blogs, but I also read other people’s stories. The point is, read blogs and stories that interest you. Just because you are a writer, it doesn’t mean you can’t read blogs about cooking or makeup.

Also, for every post I read (about 10 – 20 post a day), I left a comment for the writer. Leaving comments about what the writer wrote is important. That way, the writer knows, “Hey, this person actually read my post, awesome!” Sometimes, not always, the writer will show you the same courtesy and check out your blog. If they like your blog and find it informative, they’ll follow you.

Overall, do the below, and I’m sure you’ll get new followers:

  • Spend time reading other people’s blog, but don’t limit yourself to one subject
  • Comment on the blogs you read, even if it’s just one sentence
  • Be active in the community and mention other bloggers in your post

Like with any social media site, you need to be active and spend time getting to know others. It’s easy to think “I’m just going to update my blog and that’s it.” However, most websites these days don’t work like that, and WordPress isn’t an exception. If you want followers, step out and go find them; they are just a tag away =)

What methods do you use to grow your blog?

Flash Fiction: Writer’s Life -1

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Sitting alone in her room, a young writer decided to join an online writing community. There, she posted her stories online and hoped to get readers. Sadly, she didn’t; however, she did make friends with another young writer.

Over time, these two writers got to know each other and read each other’s stories. Both of them enjoyed each other’s work. Slowly, the writer noticed her friend was getting popular. Her friend’s reads were growing at a steady rate, while her reads were stagnant.

Although she was sad about her reads, she was happy for her friend. Not only did the friend’s reads grow, but also her followers.

One day the writer logged in and messaged her friend. The message said, “Hey! How are you doing? I’m so happy that your work is doing well and you got so many followers now. I hope I can make it one day!”

After sending the message, she waited – no response.

Maybe she is busy. Another day passed, no reply. Once forty-eight hours had passed, the little writer noticed something. Her friend was messaging and following other popular writers. With a sigh, she emailed her now popular friend one more time – no response.

After a while, she gave up. Her reads grew a little, and she gained a few followers. But sadly, that wasn’t enough to gain her friend’s attention. It was evident to her what happened – she wasn’t a popular writer, so her friend ditched her.

Eventually, she moved on, but the hurt remained. She vowed never to be that way. If she ever got popular, she would be humble, and not hurt a friend.

In case you are wondering, yes, I’m the little writer in the story. This is a real experience that happened to me, and I wanted to share it with everyone. I made a vow that if I ever became popular, I would be humble. To this day, I try to follow that promise. It’s important to remember your roots, and treat all fellow writers with respect^^

I hope you liked it!

What are you thankful for? (For Writers)

This blog post is going to be short today, but I wanted to do something in the spirit of Thanksgiving. Even if you don’t celebrate it, I thought it would be nice for us to share what we are thankful for. This was inspired by Yinglan because she is so awesome, and I love her blog! She is also a great writer, too. =)

For me, I am thankful for the following. Note: it doesn’t have to be writing related

  1. My family, of course, ^^

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2. The man in my life. 😀

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(I wish I had Levi, lol, just a little bit.)

3. My imagination – Without it, I wouldn’t be able to write


4. My cats – I love them so much, even though they annoy me sometimes


(I’m sure you writers with cats know the pain!!!)

5. My health

6. The WordPress Community

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(That’s how I felt when I first joined =(..)

When I was depressed and ready to give up on my dream, I found this awesome website called WordPress and all the wonderful writers here.

  1. My awesome readers! Thanks so much for supporting me and sticking with me, even in my moments of doubt (which there is a lot of).


If you want, tell me what you are thankful for?

Oh a funny note, I was working on Clash of Tides when I said to my guy, “Assan, be serious!” Yes, I called my guy Assan…he just looked at me and said, “Wow.”

My reaction…#writerproblems  And this is how I looked when he stared back at me and said, “I knew it! You want to be with Assan!”

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Being a Writer in a Relationship (For Writers)


Before we begin, I want to apologize for the lack of updates. Like I said before, I’m trying to focus on finishing my stories before the year ends. I’m thinking of recycling my old blog posts like other bloggers do. That way, new readers can find my old content. ^^

In the meantime, I’ll keep trying to update at least 1-2 times a week.

Onto today’s topic!

Today we’re going to talk about…

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That’s right, relationships!

So yesterday, the man I’m with made a comment about how he missed the “old me.” To further explain, the old me was a lazy bum who didn’t do anything but go to work, play RPGS, and watch TV. Once I decided I seriously wanted to be a writer, everything changed for me. I was involved in writing communities, reading and writing all the time. And when I mean all the time, I mean all the time.

My focus was on improving my craft and not letting anything stop me from being a writer. What used to be me playing video games, was now me reading books on writing. At that time, I finally felt like a part of myself was becoming who I should have been – a writer. My happiness increased (and slightly decreased from writing stress) because I felt I was a part of something. I was growing into a writer, and my world was expanded beyond the boring reality I lived in.

However, with my newfound realization, it took a toll on my relationship. Instead of being readily available to hang out with, I was busy with chapters. When the work day was finally over, I needed to go online to check my stats and read other people’s stories. Needless to say, my relationship took a hit.

We fought for a while, and I was told I was obsessed with writing. To be fair, I was. I wanted to be a good writer, to learn everything I could about the craft. When you are building yourself up, it takes time, but you can’t ignore the people in your life.

After thinking about it, I decided I needed to work on time management. While I would love to write and read as much as I could, I can’t.

Here are some tips on how I balanced being in a relationship and being a writer:

Set aside time – There is only so many hours in the day to spend time with loved ones, so try to work around those hours. For me, the guy I’m with doesn’t wake up until 10:00 am or 11:00 am on the weekends, so I work early.

Explain to them your passion – After we had fought, I explained to him and my family why writing was so important to me. I even used explains of famous people like Steve Jobs and J. K. Rowling. If you want to build yourself as a writer, you need time to write. Once I was able to provide examples and show how strong my desire was, they understood.

Don’t get angry – If your loved ones ever get mad, and say you spend too much time writing, don’t get angry with them. Listen to their concerns and come up with an action plan. For example, for my guy and me, we both agreed that past 5:00 pm, I wouldn’t write. However, that does depend on what we’re doing that day. If he wants to go out, then I don’t write.

Again, I don’t want to make this post too long, but I hope this tips will help you in your relationships :3 If you ever feel overwhelmed, try not to. Other writers have done it before us and have been successful. We just have to find that balance with our own lives.

How do you balance out writing and being in a relationship?